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ในช่วงชีวิตของเด็กวัย 12 ปีจะมีอะไรไปมากกว่าการเรียนหนังสือให้เก่ง เป็นที่ยอมรับของคนในสังคมเพื่ออนาคตที่ดี วัย 12 ปีจึงเป็นเหมือนจุดพลิกผันชีวิตเด็กคนหนึ่งในการเริ่มโตไปอีกขั้น แต่หนึ่งสิ่งที่พวกเขาต้องการมากที่สุดคงเป็นการเป็น “ที่รัก” ของพ่อและแม่ ความคาดหวังนี้เป็นแรงกดดันไม่น้อยให้เด็กอยากที่จะเรียนให้เก่งและเฟ้นหาทุกหนทางในการทำให้พวกเขาภูมิใจที่สุดจิรัล – ดุลชยธร บูลภัทรปกรณ์ เยาวชนต้นแบบสาขา ทักษะฝีมือและอาชีพ รวมถึงเป็นตัวแทนแข่งหุ่นยนต์ระดับนานาชาติ ก็มีแนวทางที่ชัดเจนคือการพยายามจะเรียนให้เก่ง และแข่งขันให้ชนะ เพื่อการเป็น “ที่รัก” ของครอบครัว แต่ถ้าเรียนไม่เก่งละ? แข่งแพ้ละ? จิรัลเริ่มตั้งคำถามนี้อยู่ในหัวเพราะกลัวการ “ไม่เป็นที่รัก” อีกต่อไปการตั้งคำถามนั้นอยู่ในหัวของจิรัลถูกคิดวนซ้ำไปมาอยู่หลายครั้ง จนนำไปสู่การตกตะกอนและบทสรุปของเด็กวัย 12 ปีที่เชื่อว่า “เราจะเอาชนะตัวเองจากความคาดหวัง” จิรัลจึงอยากจะส่งต่อเรื่องราวนี้ เผื่อว่าครอบครัวที่มีลูกที่กำลังพยายามเพื่อเป็นที่รักจนกลายเป็นความกดดัน จะได้รับคำตอบง่าย ๆ จากชีวิตในวัย 12 ปีของจิรัลThis talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx What's more important in the life of a 12-year-old than being the top student? Being accepted by society for a successful future. At this age, children reach a critical turning point in their lives as they transition to the next levels of life. However, one of their greatest desires is to be "loved" by their parents. This expectation places significant pressure on children to excel academically and find ways to make their parents proud.Jirun – Dulchayathorn Bulpatarapakorn, a role model for young people, has skills and careers that include being a representative for international robot competitions. He has a clear guideline, just like other children: strive to study well and compete to win in order to be "loved" by the family. But what if he is not academically inclined? What if he loses a competition? These questions began to plague Jirun's mind as he feared no longer being "loved."This question replayed in Jirun's mind countless times, leading him to realize that, as a 12-year-old, he needed to overcome his own expectations. Jirun wanted to share this story, simple answers, and his own experiences to help families with children who are struggling to feel loved and are experiencing stress.This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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