The lies we tell ourselves | Tlangelani Khosa | TEDxUniversityofPretoria
Who are you — really?In this deeply introspective TEDx talk, Tlangelani Khosa explores the complexity of identity, the stories we tell ourselves, and the quiet courage it takes to live beyond the labels society gives us. Through personal reflection and raw honesty, he challenges us to question the boxes we’ve built around our lives — the ones we think define us but often only keep us safe.This talk is a reminder that we are not tied to our labels. That we have the choice to show up anyway. And that we are allowed to not be perfect.With vulnerability and truth, Tlangelani invites us to see that self-discovery doesn’t begin when we have it all figured out — it begins when we realise we were never truly lost in the first place.#TEDxUniversityofPretoria #SelfDiscovery #Identity #PersonalGrowth #Kaleidoscopic #Authenticity Tlangelani Khosa (TK) is a purpose-driven digital creative and a dynamic storyteller whose journey is a testament to the power of faith and resilience. As a Dean's List Top-achieving Eduvos Alumni with a Bachelor of Science in Information Technology, he aspires to obtain an Honours Degree in Computer Science, a journey that has currently led him to the University of Pretoria. His experiences there have solidified a profound conviction about the lasting impact of student developmental spaces on his mission.As a Golden Key International Member and a recognised Elevate Africa Top `25 Speaker, TK continues to use his platform to challenge the current narrative of education and inspire others to cultivate their potential in a meaningful and impactful way. As a past Academic SRC Leader, he believes the biggest hurdle to our own future potential is our comfort with holding onto self-limiting beliefs. This conviction is what drives his aim of continuing to make a lasting, generational change This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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