This transformational TEDx talk has a message for anyone who has ever felt shaped, shackled, or shadowed by their past. It's an invitation to rethink and unpack the stories we carry - about who we are, we're not, and who we become. Through the lens of their lived experience, the speaker takes us on a journey of unlearning and unbecoming to reveal the powerful steps we can each take to stop being confined or defined by our past - and instead, to be refined by it. Nerissa is the founder of the 'Speak for IMPACT' and 'Say Yes To You' programs, which have enabled countless leaders and changemakers to discover their 'you-nique' superpower, amplify diverse voices, and share stories powerfully. As Speaker Advocate Coach and Facilitator with a leading Speaking and Personal Development organization. Nerissa has coached students from over 52 countries. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx